Leading myself

So i have been participating in a  leadership course. It has really got me thinking, about myself and how i behave, in particular towards things that want, weightless in particular, but even in other things, clearly i am not leading myself to where I want to be.   This course is based on a book written by John C Maxwell called the 21 irrefutable laws of leadership.  Law no 3 is called the law of process - Leadership builds daily not in a day.  i had to think about it, but i figured that it was the old adage Rome was not built in a day.  So you are not likely to be an over night sensation, you have to put the work in, you have to be prepared to learn and grow. So in this moment my best exemplification of this law would be the Williams Sisters. Their meteoric rise to glory is very well documented, but one thing that stands out ( and there are many) is that when they started out their coach father made them chuck tennis racquets over and over again, with a particular action, i believe with the aim of making them to be able to serve more powerfully. Imagine that as a 12 year old, when at best you just want to play tennis or go out with girlfriends to the mall. oh yes i forgot they probably did not have any.  So why should i expect that i will walk into slimming world, get my books, tools and go back the following week and i have lost all the weight i have desired??? OK i don’t really expect that but  i wanted to make a point.  Hands up if you want to reach the pinnacle of your chosen career as Serena and Venus have done?

If you are wondering how i can relate this law of process to my weightless journey, go back to my older posts, and you will see that i have an epic battle going on with discipline. i have a whole series dedicated to my personal war against indiscipline.   In this law of process  you have different phases , ( five to be precise), and I feel that for the length of time i have been going to SW and coupled with the amount of exercising I do, i should be at the phase  where I simply go because of what i know, that is stage 5 i.e. successful and good at it, but i feel that my indiscipline has kept me at phase 3 - I know what i don’t know- as in i don’t seem to be able to control myself, i constantly misbehave, make poor choices while i am out and about so i do not develop and grow.

As I  have no  intention of quitting, then clearly i must change my ways, if I want to develop and take my weight loss to the next level. This law also states the difference between an event and a process.  An event will inspire you to move forward, whereas a process will enable you to improve and learn.  So the application here, would be the event is i am inspired by is going to Mauritius at the end of October of course i want to lose weight to look good on the trip, but i would also want to keep this off, and this means that i need to engage in a process so that i can grow. 

That process in this case would be to follow the process designed by SW ( that’s my choice) but there are others out there that will also assist you in achieving your goals. Once i have created some success here, i would consider that I am leading myself t

Gratitude Challenge

Last year on Social Media, there were these challenges going around, somehow or the other I was nominated for at least two similar ones. They were nice ones actually reflective, made me think about certain aspects of my life.  It came up as part of my memories on Facebook, and as I read it again, i realised how I feel pretty much the same way still or in fact even more so. I thought I would share it, here. The challenge was to come up with something everyday that I am grateful for.  These below are mine:

1. The amazing Gift that our Lord Jesus Christ bestowed on me by giving his life so that I can be saved.  What greater gift can there be, its one that I keep receiving in the holy sacrament along with  all other benefits on many occasions. 
2. My family. I am so grateful to have been born where and when I was,  yes those of you who know me, know that I often jest that I was born in the wrong place as I was supposed to be a lady that lunches, and does charitable work  and Zumba / TKD rather than going to work ha ha but I have to say I was born to the most wonderful parents,  My mum was the most beautiful woman to have graced this earth and as I always say the biggest champion of my cause. I have the best siblings in the world ( and the worst ha .. ) but the best I would stake my life for them. , my husband,  I have cousins, nieces, nephews, god children and there is more, my extended family  goes above and beyond, I am so lucky to have  parents, step parents, in laws  and to have been ‘adopted’ into each part of the resulting families.  I must not forget my friends, I have amazing friends old and new.  You  Know me,  I don’t do things by halves, I’m an  all or nothing, person so if I count you as my friend that’s it that love is there, you are now part of my family for ever so  God help you..
3. My health what can I say: Where there is health, there is wealth! I complain a lot about my weight, my big belly, my efforts to reduce both ( ha ..enough said, you can read my older  blog posts if you want to know more), but seriously am grateful that  aside from weight related creeks and aches, I am a well woman, you only have to open any news channel, read any paper, read any news site, indeed just talk to  your friends there is always someone somewhere suffering from something, some one living with one condition or the other. So I thank  God, for without Him, he alone knows!
4. OK, family related, but separate: My sister friends.  I have the best sister friends ever, yes They are the extra siblings gifted to me from God. I truly believe friendship is a gift from God, that should be nurtured and treasured always. They have been there, through thick and thin, through the lean times and the good, they have followed me wherever, they have comforted me in sad times, they have rejoiced with me in happy times.  lifted me up, corrected me when I’m wrong and sometimes been inexplicably mad with me.. ( i say that). Its a privilege to have this much love in your life and I am grateful. 
5. For a privileged life: this life afforded me a fantastic education, which really just opened my penchant for learning, for new experiences and thus to keep an open mind.  to be able to appreciate that I have more than I need, yes i’ve said it and No Im not giving away my iPad but you get my drift. I continue to feel privileged,  as I meet new people have new experiences and am able to do the things that make me happy. I could go on, but you understand me.
6. For being a people person first: for my ability to talk to anyone, anywhere. It has made for a diverse mix of friends, mates and the like! Makes many  of my days lighter, makes for wonderful times at Zumba and TKD, and not to mention the many a social gatherings. Also my ability to see the human side of most stories.
7. Social Media and gadgets: yes the big conversation helped by technology enough said.